Fix Dart plugin registrant interaction with 'flutter test' (#90288)

Building an application for a desktop platform that transitively included any Dart-based plugins (such as path_provider) broke `flutter test`, because its compilation was overriding the provided main (in this case, the test main) with `generated_main.dart` if it was present. This PR:
- Changes the `flutter test` compilation path to update `generated_main.dart`, so that the tests will work, and will include any registered Dart plugins.
- Makes using `generated_main.dart` during recompile opt-in, to try to reduce the chance of a similar bug happening with other codepaths in the future.

Fixes https://github.com/flutter/flutter/issues/88794