[flutter_tools] add --android-gradle-daemon option, use in devicelab (#68409)

Remove devicelab specific code for shutting down gradle daemon, add --android-gradle-daemon option to build/run/drive`. Avoids need for un-tested devicelab specific handler. There are also some feature requests for this, so 2 birds one stone.

Example:

flutter build apk --no-android-gradle-daemon will pass --no-daemon on to gradle