Start to split out initialization and registration (#21787)

Still TODO:

* [x] Factor out `start_language_server` so we can call it on register
(instead of on detect language)
* [x] Only call register in singleton editors (or when
editing/go-to-definition etc. in a multibuffer?)
* [x] Refcount on register so we can unregister when no buffer remain
* [ ] (maybe) Stop language servers that are no longer needed after some
time

Release Notes:

- Fixed language servers starting when doing project search
- Fixed high CPU usage when ignoring warnings in the diagnostics view

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Co-authored-by: Piotr Osiewicz <24362066+osiewicz@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: Cole <cole@zed.dev>