feat(cli): check plugin versions for incompatibilities (#13993)

* feat(cli): check plugin versions for incompatibilities

check core plugin versions for incompatibilities between Cargo and NPM releases

a plugin NPM/cargo version is considered "incompatible" if their major or minor versions are not equal

on dev we show an warning
on build we error out (with a `--ignore-incompatible-plugins` flag to prevent that)

this is an idea from @oscartbeaumont
we've seen several plugin changes that require updates for both the cargo and the NPM releases of a plugin, and if they are not in sync, the functionality does not work
e.g. https://github.com/tauri-apps/plugins-workspace/pull/2573 where the change actually breaks the app updater if you miss the NPM update

* Use list to get multiple package versions at once

* Fix for older rust versions

* Clippy

* Support yarn classic

* Support yarn berry

* Use `.cmd` only for `npm`, `yarn`, `pnpm`

* Use yarn list without --pattern

* rename

* Extract function `check_incompatible_packages`

* Check `tauri` <-> `@tauri-apps/api`

* incompatible -> mismatched

* run build check in parallel

* rename struct

* Switch back to use sync check and add todo

* Extract to function `cargo_manifest_and_lock`

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Co-authored-by: Tony <legendmastertony@gmail.com>